doctor_j_crane

I think you have to approach it with a lack of illusions in the matter. Perhaps it is just a matter of having someone you can rely on, and someone you can count on, no matter what. I have said quite a bit of this before, I imagine, but I think sometimes... I'd never have any relationship here that I wouldn't at home.

But you're also right that the parameters are different. You can't really con yourself that this is home, or a normal world, or a particularly nice one where relationships work, and work in a usual, functional manner. I don't think it means it's substandard, I think you're just working with what you can and making the best of it.

I have no doubt in saying that anyone I did have a relationship here with is... someone I'd have done the same with in the real world. But, I'd never expect them to choose me, and here, over the real world. That's treating this place like a home - and it isn't. It's too transient, too unstable, and too dangerous to do that. That doesn't quite stand in the way of serious, real emotions, though.

So I don't think I agree with you, but you're not entirely wrong, either.